Thursday, March 28, 2013

Dating sites???


            Dating sites should only be used for finding someone, not for dating them online. I get that there is a mathematical way that the computer matches couples together but I don’t think it can fully find that special connection that people need to find on their own. That is why I say that it’s ok to find someone on a dating website, but you need to get to know them in real life. You may like the person you talk to online, but they could be a completely different person in real life because over a computer you can make yourself seem more perfect but in reality you need to experience the person’s vulnerability to see if you really like them and you cannot see that through a computer. “Vulnerability is the essence of romance” says Kutcher in his article here.

            Sian Meades says that “social media should be for flirting and nothing more.” (Find this article here). I completely agree, dating websites are a type of social media that help you connect with someone and maybe flirt a little, but that is it. You need to get into real world situations like seeing how they are around kids, or going out to dinner to realize if this person has what is right for you. Facebook, twitter, and dating websites cannot fully show you if they have these qualities that you need. Romance needs time. Texting, tweeting, and face booking only give us 140 characters to say something and that is not enough space to write the emotions you have. When you are in a real relationship you need to know how to deal with each other’s emotions as they are happening and texting doesn’t teach how to deal with them on the spot because you can give it a few minutes to decide what to say to the person. Overall social media does not help you learn how to talk to people and strike up a conversation, or what to do when their feeling are hurt.

            Finding a “soul mate” on a dating website can also lead to problems because you never know for sure who they truly are until you meet them in person. There is just something about person to person contact that a computer or phone really cannot beat. I don’t care how advanced technology becomes, real life relationships are so much better. (397)

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